8 Ways to Work on Self Acceptance (And a Free Self Love Affirmations List)

8 Ways to Work on Self Acceptance (And a Free Self Love Affirmations List) |Why self love is the foundation of a healthy diet and lifestyle and how to make self acceptance a priority. Plus, free download! Hell yea! Click through for the post.

Hiya Lovelies:

What’s the key to a healthy lifestyle? The most important thing that you need to really bring everything together? Is it a healthy diet? Tons of exercise? A good night’s sleep? Heck no! (Even though those are all pretty freaking important.) It’s all about the self love baby! And self acceptance is a pretty big part of that.

Learning to love yourself wholeheartedly and accept yourself as the incredible, unique snowflake you are is a big deal. And if that doesn’t sit at the foundation of your healthy lifestyle everything kind of falls apart.

Let’s talk about why self acceptance is so important and how you can work on getting there:

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Self Acceptance is Not About Giving Up

There’s this idea that when we accept ourselves we’re becoming complacent, giving up our ambitions and settling in to exactly where we are in this moment, permanently. But honey that’s not what self acceptance is about at all! We all want to grow, learn and be more. But we can’t hold our self love for ransom until we blossom into some mythical version of ourselves that we idolize.

If you exist in a constant state of ‘I am not enough and I can’t love myself until I become more’ all you’re doing is creating more suffering for yourself. And there is no sustainable growth in suffering town.

You are already full of goodness. And when you realize that and you start to honour what an incredible person you already are, things change. Because any change that you strive for is no longer about fixing a broken and valueless self, it’s about acknowledging that you’re already bursting with goodness and you’re just looking to create more.

Life is tough. You are worthy of your own love. And you deserve to have your own back.

What Does This Have to do With a Healthy Lifestyle

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If you’re reading away and thinking “totally Sara, accept yourself… I get it. But what does this have to do with creating a healthy diet and lifestyle?” I get ya. But hear me out!

Whether you’re looking to eat healthier or create any sustainable healthy lifestyle change, self love is the key. 

Change is hard and it can take a lot of time and dedication. Especially when you’re looking to change the way you eat or revamp your lifestyle. But if you aren’t in it for the right reasons they don’t tend to last. And what’s the best reason to live a healthy lifestyle? Because you love the heck out of yourself and want to treat yourself with kindness.

Seriously – there’s a huge difference between creating a restrictive diet because you want to lose weight or tone up (and become that mythical version of yourself we’ve been talking about) and creating a healthy diet because you love yourself and want to feed your incredible body with kindness.

Either way, you will likely get the same results (a healthier you), but the second one is far more sustainable.

You can read more about how to create a lasting healthy diet right here.

But it Goes Way Further Than That

Self acceptance also bolsters our mental and physical well-being. Remember when we talked about how awesome mindfulness meditation can be for your health? Well it turns out that it works even better when we love and accept ourselves (source).

Self acceptance can even change your brain! Those who love and accept themselves tend to have more grey matter in the areas of the brain that control emotions and stress, which can help us cope more efficiently (source). This even extends further to the parts of the brain that process stress and anxiety (source 1, source 2)

And when you’re living with an illness, like I do with Graves Disease, self acceptance can help to reduce health related anxiety (source). And any help in that department is a freaking god-send!

How To Start Making Self Acceptance a Priority

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The most important thing is to realize that you are not broken and in need of fixing. You are already whole. A desire for growth is fantastic, but that doesn’t have to come from a place of insufficiency. You are wonderful as you are and worthy of acceptance!

It’s also important to realize that this is an on-going journey. Some days are easier than others and we all have moments where we have difficulties accepting certain things.

For example, I accept that I have an incurable autoimmune disease… but I sometimes have a hard time accepting that I cry when I’m angry – even if being open and honest about my emotions is pretty healthy for myself and those around me in the long run.

Like any relationship, your relationship with yourself takes time, love and care. And it’s an ongoing thing. You aren’t going to wake up one day and be a self love guru. But if self love is a continuous priority things will be much better (and those moments when you aren’t feeling so accepting of yourself will be a lot easier).

Be patient with yourself as you learn to walk your path with a lot more love. These things take time, but the fact that your intentions are so wonderful is pretty damn awesome already!

Where Do You Even Start

Everyone’s journey to self acceptance is different. But making it a priority is the first step!

Here’s what works for me:

  1. Make time every day for self care activities that bring you joy (here are a few ideas)
  2. Meditate on self love affirmations
  3. Speak kindly to yourself
  4. Acknowledge negative self talk without judgment or anger and respond with kindness or let it go
  5. Work on accepting that you are beautifully imperfect – don’t shame yourself
  6. Allow yourself time to do nothing
  7. Find your tribe – surround yourself with people who love you as you are and encourage you to be yourself
  8. Most importantly – do what feels right to you! This is your journey and your road to self acceptance is just as beautiful and unique as you are

Need a little help! Click here (or on the photo below) to download 10 Self Love Affirmations that can help you work on accepting your wonderful self as you are.

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Not it’s your turn! Do you struggle with self love? What tips and tricks would you offer to someone looking to build up their self acceptance? Let me know in the comments!

Health and love,

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Thought of the day: I love and accept myself as I am. 

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16 Comments

  1. I struggled with perfectionism for the longest time. It not only made me feel bad but kept me from trying things because I was afraid I wouldn’t be good at them right away. I’ve been working on embracing the journey of beginner and have been having so much more fun!

    1. I’m so happy to hear that Michaela! We all start as novices; giving ourselves permission to learn is so important and incredibly freeing! I hope you have fun discovering all sorts of new things about yourself <3

  2. I think you made an important distinction that self-acceptance is not giving up. Self-acceptance is ACTUALLY feeling good about yourself, not just resigning yourself to the idea that you can’t get any better. Thanks for the great post!

    1. Heck yea! I’m so glad you feel that way too <3. Thank you Nicole! We all deserve to feel loved and accepted, especially from ourselves. Hope you have a beautiful day!

  3. I don’t think I have ever had a problem with self-acceptance. Does that make me vain? Is the fact that I am questioning my self a sign of non self-acceptance? You post makes me think… 🙂

    1. I definitely don’t think that makes you vain at all! You deserve to be loved and accepted, especially by yourself. Glad I’ve got you thinking! Keep up that self love – it’s wonderful for you Bertahan <3

  4. Some great tips. I think it all comes down to mindset and asking yourself why you’re making the changes you’re making. When you understand your why it’s so much easier to accept yourself and start making a change for the better.

    1. Absolutely! Our relationship with ourselves is truly the foundation of our well-being in my opinion. So glad you agree that it’s truly important. I hope you have a wonderful day :).

  5. This post couldn’t have come at a better time. I’ve been laid off for over six months now and struggling with self-esteem issues. I’m working on ways to combat it, because in the back of my head, I know I am enough lol. I definitely need to take more time for myself. Out of those six months, I’ve taken about 10 days off. Thank you for this! Have a wonderful day!

    1. Hi Jacqui! I am so glad that this found you when you needed it. That must be a really hard situation to deal with. I’m really sorry to hear that you’re going through something difficult. But it definitely isn’t because you aren’t enough! And I really hope that you see that.
      Wishing you well as you venture forward. I hope that a ton of self love and success are in your near future. <3

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