Do you make time everyday to take care of the wonderful you? And I mean, more than the basic, keep you alive stuff… I’m talking the stuff that makes you feel special. The things that help you feel relaxed. Soothing habits that de-stress you. Feel good activities that support your well-being. Or just the little things that make you happy.
Self care is a form of self love. And that, my friends, is the foundation of a healthy lifestyle. Because, when you love and care for yourself, you take care of yourself and make choices from a kind, loving place. So let’s work on our relationships with our incredible selves and get our self care on!
Welcome to 2017! The New Year is upon us and many of you may have created a New Year’s Resolution. New year new you, so to speak? Goals, aspirations and change are all well and good, but remember that sometimes New Year’s Resolutions can also be a burden on our health. However, there is an option that can help pave the way to goodness.
Last week I received a marvelous treat – The ChronicAlly Box, a must have subscription box for spoonies and health and beauty buffs alike. It felt like a little Christmas just for me. I was delighted, surprised and spoiled! So excited in fact that I really want you to have the opportunity to experience that goodness too.
The ChronicAlly box is the first ever monthly subscription box dedicated to spoonies (chronic illness warriors). It’s a health and beauty pick me up full of spoons, created by a chronic illness warrior, for chronic illness warriors.
It’s also the gift that keeps on giving because a portion of all sales are donated to chronic illness causes (proceeds from last month supported the Breast Cancer Research Foundation and Dysautonomia International). I love that this monthly subscription box is a bringer of joy. It brings joy to your door while also providing joy to those who rely on the organizations that receive ChronicAlly’s support.
But what if you don’t have a chronic illness? Is this box still something you can enjoy? Heck yes! Because non-spoonies need spoons too.
Here’s what you can expect if you treat yourself to a ChronicAlly Box:
Life is strange… It’s strange because shit happens, things blindside you and sometimes there are no right answers and no clean outcomes. It’s certainly strange for a plethora of other reasons; our very existence is strange if you stop and consider it… but I digress. Today I’m focused on that no right answer, sudden happenstance strangeness that occasional blinds many of us. Those moments when finding gratitude seems impossible.
Are you on a pursuit of happiness? Do you strive to create a foundation of joy and gratitude and greet the world with a smile on your face? I certainly do and I think that this ideal is fairly popular, especially among the wellness community.
And how could it not be? Happiness feels good! A positive outlook is good for you. Emotional vitality and a sense of optimism can help you to avoid and/or manage illnesses like heart attacks, stroke, diabetes and depression (source).
But there’s something to be said about emotional balance. It is impossible to live a life where you never feel negative emotions. Sadness, anger, fear, anxiety… these are inevitable facts of life. The question is, can negative emotions be good for you?
Have you ever pined for days long past? Become stuck in the romantic ideas brought on by a nostalgia loop playing over and over in your mind? Felt an ache in your heart for your childhood days? I know I have.
Earlier this summer, I found my mind wistfully replaying the days of old; missing something that I couldn’t quite put my finger on. Try as I might I couldn’t shake that feeling.
It wasn’t until recently that I found what I had been missing.
What’s your self love prescription? What do you do to take the best possible care of yourself, to comfort yourself, to create and maintain a loving relationship with the incredible being that you are? It doesn’t have to be complicated – there are so many ways to ensure that self love is second nature.
Unfortunately, dedicating time and creating rituals that truly nurture our souls isn’t always easy. Think about it – we are taught not to put ourselves first; being selfish is looked down upon and the idea of falling wholeheartedly in love with yourself is bizarre. But it shouldn’t be. We are all so dedicated to our jobs, our studies, our spouses, our friends, and our families… and while it is wonderful to be as present as we can be for others we need to learn to be just as present for ourselves. When we don’t make ourselves a priority and continue to push and give of ourselves without rest we wind up exhausted, unhappy and unwell.
I vote that we make taking the time to nurture and care for ourselves so incredibly normal that it’s second nature! You are worthy of your love and should be at the top of your priority list. So why not create a daily self love prescription that you can, well, fall in love with?
Need help getting started? Here are 20 Acts of Self Love to incorporate into your routine:
We’ve all been visited by the little green monster. Envy creeps up on you and you find yourself flooded with emotions; anger, resentment, discontentment…
Envy can be painful, disheartening and destructive. It can arrive laced with blame, and our natural affinity to push those feelings outward and envelope them with anger can sometimes leave relationships irrevocably tarnished. Even in the most innocent and simplistic cases, the resentment and self-doubt boiled up by envy can leave us feeling incomplete and hopeless.
But I’d like to think that if we take this heavy experience as an opportunity to grow, it can also be a powerful tool towards achieving our goals.
“You’re too nice, it’s off-putting”. These words struck me in such a strange way. They left me feeling both embarrassed and insulted, stuck in a weird limbo, reviewing all of the once positive memories that led to that comment.
Let’s rewind – as someone who temps and freelances for a living, I often have a performance review at the end of a contract. My positive attitude has always been a point of highlight, but this time it was apparently a point of pain.
Welcome to 2016! Another year has arrived and with that comes a lot of excitement and an overwhelming amount of pressure. How will we better ourselves this year? How will we define 2016? What will we resolve to do?
Let’s talk about my New Year resolution and why it’s an awesome idea for you too: