Welcome to 2017! The New Year is upon us and many of you may have created a New Year’s Resolution. New year new you, so to speak? Goals, aspirations and change are all well and good, but remember that sometimes New Year’s Resolutions can also be a burden on our health. However, there is an option that can help pave the way to goodness.
There’s a problem with New Year’s Resolutions… they’re often grand, difficult if not unachievable and aimed at reinventing ourselves. And while I champion the idea of learning and growing, I also think it’s important that you know that you, as you are right now, are pretty awesome!
To quote myself (queue Inception music), from a year ago today (see my 2016 post on New Year’s Resolutions) “According to a New Brunswick psychologist, Tom McAvity, beginning the year by vowing to make often unrealistic, grand life changes can place us under a significant amount of stress, increasing our cortisol levels. Consequently, this can affect our thyroid function, weight, digestion, and suppress our immune systems (spoonie or not, this is definitely an unwanted side effect). This stress is further realized if the resolution is not achieved, reducing our self-esteem and sense of wellness.”
Does this mean that we stop making resolutions and remain stagnant? Heck no! But let’s take some of the pressure off. Let’s create a New Year’s Resolutions that will ultimately help us to achieve any future goal. Why not make the BEST New Year’s Resolution possible?
The BEST New Year’s Resolution you could make is this:
Vow to learn to Love Yourself.
Regardless of what other goals you may have, a loving, forgiving, patient and respectful relationship with yourself is the ultimate foundation. Whether it be to eat healthier, to exercise more, to follow a new career path, to find the right counselor… having a healthy, positive relationship with yourself makes all the difference when pursuing any goal.
Why Self-Love Makes all the Difference:
When you truly love yourself, everything changes. You feed your body with kindness because it’s part of your self love language, instead of developing a strict, unpleasant diet out of a dislike for your shape or size. Self-love helps you to change your dialogue with yourself, silencing your inner mean girl/guy. You do your best to remove yourself from scenarios that bring you misery because you value yourself and know that you deserve better. And you find the right help for you when you need it, because you recognize that you deserve love and support, like everyone else.
When a love and respect for yourself exists at the foundation of your lifestyle, positive changes stick. Your well being is at the centre of your actions. And that makes such an incredible difference.
How to Make Self-Love Your New Year’s Resolution:
Like any relationship, your relationship with yourself takes time, patience, love and care. Three major things that you can do to work on self-love are:
Speak kindly to yourself. Treat yourself with kindness. Make time for the things that bring you joy.
Speak kindly to yourself.
The things you say or think about yourself are powerful. You are your own greatest influence on your opinion of yourself. And that opinion, in turn, influences how you feel and your faith in yourself. Be aware of negative self-talk. Combat it with positive self-talk and affirmations. Compliment yourself. Become excited about your life’s adventure. Tell yourself you love yourself. It may seem strange initially, but trust me – after a while it will become a habit. And then you’ll start to truly believe it.
Examples of positive self-talk:
“I love myself as I am”
“I am beautiful”
“My life is unfolding beautifully”
“I know that I am enough”
“I am capable”
“My body is a beautiful, biological masterpiece and I am grateful for the life it provides for me”
“I am excited for all of the wonders that have yet to unfold in my world”
Treat yourself with kindness.
You deserve to treat yourself with love by making self-loving acts a daily priority. Need help getting started? Check out this post about 20 daily acts of self-love that you can incorporate into your life.
Make time for the things that bring your joy.
Who would we be without our passions? Make time for the things that bring you joy. It does wonders for the spirit.
Here’s to a beautiful year. May it be a lovely opportunity to become better acquainted with your incredible self. That, my friends, is the best New Year’s Resolution you could make.
Health and love,
Thought of the day: I am worthy of my own friendship. I will make treating myself with love and kindness a priority.
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