The Truth About Finding Purpose And Why It’s Not About What You Do

The Truth about Finding Your Purpose | Why the idea that your purpose is all about what you do is a myth. And how to instead turn finding your purpose into an opportunity to develop tons of self acceptance and self love.

Hello Lovelies:

What’s your purpose? Does that question make you cringe? Honestly, I think that when the idea of finding purpose comes up many of us start to sweat and wonder if we measure up. Our minds wander to our jobs, our education, our hobbies… and all of the things we do. And for many of us, we may find ourselves wanting (or completely lost)

But what if things could be different? What if our purpose isn’t really what we’ve been led to believe? What if it comes from a completely different place?

If the idea of finding your purpose makes you cringe… if you’re feeling like you’ll never find it, or if you’ve recently lost your way, this post is for you <3. 

The Truth about Finding Purpose | Why the idea that your purpose is all about what you do is a myth. And how to instead turn finding your purpose into an opportunity to develop tons of self acceptance and self love.

I Always Thought I Knew My Purpose

My entire life I thought I knew what I had been placed on this earth to do. I was going to dedicate my life to animals. The exact ‘what’ changed as I grew up – Veterinarian, Zoologist, Wildlife Rehabilitator… You name it, I’ve dreamed of it. And I even succeeded to some degree, working as a zookeeper apprentice, animal care provider and pet nutrition specialist… I spent years of my young life working in a field that I loved.

I even studied Zookeeping and Aquarium Technology and pursued a degree in Sciences with a Bio major in University. Seriously, I was in it to win it.

I knew it my heart that this was what I was made for. Feeling as if I knew what I was meant to do with my life brought me a ton of comfort.

Enter Graves Disease! Surprise, surprise, life had other plans.

I stubbornly fought against my diagnosis for months, even taking on a new job that would allow me to learn more about farm animals. Nothing was going to stop me. Or so I thought…

But life isn’t like that sometimes. Ignoring what my body was trying so desperately to tell me didn’t benefit me at all. Instead, things got worse. I could barely walk around the block by the time my doctor placed me on sick leave… and I had to accept that I wouldn’t be able to return to such a physically demanding job.

It felt like I had lost my purpose. As you can probably guess, that was pretty hard to swallow.

Until I thought I had found a new purpose…

After tons of healing and a huge lifestyle change, I created Health-Esteem. This website became my solace. Using my experiences to help inspire others to live healthier lives was refreshing and uplifting. The fear of finding purpose again receded and I felt at home.

But then I relapsed and had to take a huge step back in order to heal. And all those negative feelings came rushing back. To be blunt… it really sucked.

And there’s a reason for that:

The Truth about Finding Purpose | Why the idea that your purpose is all about what you do is a myth. And how to instead turn finding your purpose into an opportunity to develop tons of self acceptance and self love.

Your Purpose Should Come From Within

We are all led to believe that finding purpose means seeking something outside of ourselves. Whether it be a career path, a volunteer project, a hobby… our purpose is meant to be something we do. An external list of accomplishments we need to achieve in order to feel like we have real value.

But there’s a problem with this idea…

When your purpose exists outside of yourself it can be taken away (if it’s ever even found at all). By a layoff, a health problem, a change of heart…

Life is a long, often random and unpredictable adventure. Things are going to change constantly, which can leave you feeling without a purpose fairly often. And that feeling… that soul-crushing pain of “losing your purpose” can really pack a painful punch. One that might make you feel pretty freaking depleted and down in the dumps.

Which is a shame, because inevitable changes in life really shouldn’t leave us feeling like we have no value. Feeling worthless isn’t good for our well-being after all.

But your purpose truly has nothing to do with what you do!

What if your purpose is instead found within you? You see – if your purpose is internal, you’ll still accomplish a ton of incredible things! But you won’t need to worry about finding purpose (or losing it) because it’s right there inside you, always. And you can take it with you on all of your amazing adventures.

Re-framing the idea of finding purpose and ensuring that it comes from within is incredibly freeing. It releases the pressures of having to find the perfect job. Or the stress caused by creating and sticking to impossible resolutions. Or having the perfect body (I’m sure we’ve all felt that dang pressure).

My favourite part? Finding an internal purposes helps us find our way towards self-acceptance. No need to accomplish something serious to be of value. You’re pretty awesome and deserve self-acceptance right now.

Need Helping Finding Purpose from Within?

The Truth about Finding Your Purpose | Why the idea that your purpose is all about what you do is a myth. And how to instead turn finding your purpose into an opportunity to develop tons of self acceptance and self love.

Here are a few ideas:

What if your purpose is to fall in love with your beautiful self? To discover yourself, befriend yourself and use your newfound knowledge of all of your fantasticness to be the awesome you that you are! Imagine all the goodness you’ll be able to put out into the world when you’re being so kind and nurturing towards yourself.

What if your purpose is to learn to feed and treat your body with kindness. To help yourself heal and to inspire others through your commitment to your own well-being?

What if your purpose were to discover your own unique interests and indulge them? Even if they aren’t mainstream or “cool”. What if you acknowledge and be proud of the passions that make you who you are and thus be a role model for anyone who needs to feel safe to accept their unique selves too?

See – an internal purpose not only frees you from the idea that your value exists outside of yourself… it also puts a ton of good out into the world. Total win!

These ideas (and more) can all apply to many external activities, and make you damn good at them. But even as jobs and hobbies come and go, these internal purposes will never stray. Because they’re inside of you gorgeous. And nothing can take that away.

Doesn’t this sound more freeing than tying your purpose to something external? It’s been such a huge relief personally. Now I am free of that ache that comes along with losing your way and feeling purposeless. Because I know that that never means that I have no purpose or meaning. It’s always right there, inside of me, burning bright. And it’s in you too.

Now it’s your turn: Are you excited to find your purpose internally? Tell me what one of your purposes is in the comments. I can’t wait to read them! 

Health and love,


Thought of the day: My purpose is to be my wonderful self. 

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  1. As usual you have hit the nail squarely on the head lovely one! My stomach actually lurched when you spoke of relapsing after you thought you’d found your purpose. I have been there too and it is not easy; the anger and the sadness, despair actually, that comes with that second (for some third or fourth even) blow is devastating. But each of these trials has a lesson and you are so right that it is only when you look inwards and begin to really know who you are and love and nourish yourself – physically, emotionally and spiritually – that you begin to understand that you purpose starts with being. It really is that simple – just be and the rest follows.
    Much love to you precious one <3

    1. I’m so happy to know such wonderful Graves Warriors who share in this journey with me. Thank you so much Jane! It definitely isn’t easy. But I am truly grateful for all of the lessons that have come out of this experience. And for how well I now know myself (and how much I love myself). I’m happy that you’re finding the same goodness through your journey as well. <3
      Thank you for always sharing in this with me gorgeous! I'm so glad.

    1. Thank you so much for your kind words Jenn! I’m really appreciate the positive vibes you’re sending my way <3. I hope that you have fun looking inwards and learning more about all the wonderful things that make you you :).

    1. I’m so glad you enjoyed it! Thank you <3. It certainly hasn't all been easy - but it's also taught me a lot about life and allowed me to develop a pretty wonderful relationship with myself. I wouldn't change it for the world. I hope your journey is full of goodness too!

  2. Beautiful post! I felt myself nodding the whole way through while I was reading. As a counsellor, I definitely encourage my clients to look within themselves and see the strengths and innate abilities they already possess but maybe are lost or forgotten along the way because life can be tough! I think for myself, my purpose is to support others, and this in turn helps me to remind myself of my own strengths and abilities. Thanks for the reminder!

    Heather |

    1. Oh I am so glad to hear that Heather! It must be wonderful to help people find their way to a more self-loving place. I’m really glad they have your support and guidance! And that sounds like a pretty fantastic purpose. I’m really happy you found this helpful. Means a lot coming from you <3.

    1. That’s awesome Cassie! Your uniqueness is marvelous – there is absolutely no one youer than you after all! And I think that using that as a way to help others to feel more comfortable with their own individuality is pretty wonderful. It isn’t always easy to accept ourselves – but we’re all pretty uniquely fantastic. I’m happy that you’ve realized that about yourself! <3 You deserve it.

    1. I’m so happy to hear that Dominika! Your person is simply to be yourself and embrace the wonderful you that you are. The rest will come. I hope you have a wonderful time looking internally and seeing all of the goodness within. Wishing you well!

  3. Such a fantastic post- love your road to self discovery. I also find it easy to define myself by outward goals. When I focus more on the impact of my life on those around me in my daily life, it helps me feel more satisfied than when I seek external fulfillment. Sorry you had to go through all that and hope slowing down has helped you manage your illness and feel better.

    1. Thank you so much Alex! I’m really glad that you enjoyed this. And happy that you know to look internally sometimes too. There’s lots of goodness in there!
      I really appreciate your kind words! I’m thankfully doing very well health wise. I will always have Graves Disease, but it’s in remission and things are looking very good (my doctors aren’t worried about a relapse in the near future). Learning to love myself wholeheartedly, feed myself with kindness and live well have been paramount to regaining my health (along with the help of a couple of wonderful doctors of course).
      Wishing you well! I hope you’re feeling wonderful too <3.

  4. My darling daughter – your wisdom never ceases to amaze and inspire me. Your heart is three times the size it’s supposed to be.
    I love you

    1. I love you mama. Thanks for giving me such a big heart! And always standing by my side and giving me the strength to stand up and venture forward (even when things aren’t easy). The gift I am most grateful for in this world is the fact that I get to be your daughter. <3

    1. I’m so happy to hear that Viola! I hope you have a wonderful time discovering all of the goodness you have inside of yourself. Wishing you well on your journey <3.

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